Thursday, July 7, 2011

Donald Lee: Meet my Father in Law pt1

My name is Frederick Han and many of you may have seen me on the news outlets as the spokesperson for the Donald Lee family. I was asked to deliver the specific details about the events that took place on that fateful night. His wife and daughters were the ones to tell you from an emotional perspective. I can't do it all in one post so I'll post in pieces because that's how much I have to say about him. I hope you will take a moment out of your day and read about what he means to me. My first meeting with him was fairly frightening. My future wife (Mandi Lee) had told me he was a no B.S. kind of man who owned guns, ran with a rough crowd as a young man and definitely protective of his daughters. You can imagine that I was not expecting this to be a pleasant first meeting. Well, let me tell you that my first meeting with him was the complete opposite. He greeted me with a warm smile and a solid handshake. Not the kind that is so tight gripped you lose all feeling in your hand because what they're really saying is (I will mess you up if you do my daughter wrong). He welcomed me into his home and the first thing he asked me was if I was hungry. This would turn out to be a pattern with him because the man loved food and no one ever leaves Donald Lee's house without a full belly. This is a man who's first priority when he goes on vacation is "where to eat". If you know my wife you would say the apple doesn't fall very far from the tree. I was nervous as hell because I kept thinking; this is some sort of trick to confuse me to let my guard down then "BAM" the third degree! That moment also never came. Instead we spent the evening with me telling him and my future mother in law (May Lee) about myself and my family. He was genuinely interested but not in a "I know what your up to you punk" sort of way, but he was all smiles and he was really pleased by what I was telling him. At least i hope thats what he was thinking. I'll have to ask him some day just to be sure. Anyways, I walked out of the Lee residence that night thinking about how I was looking so forward to coming back the next day. This is I learned the effect that my future father in law has on everyone he meets. Any of his friends will agree with me that this is what Donald Lee is all about. You always look forward to coming back~

I would like to add that if any friends or family members of the other missing men would like to send in stories and pictures to attach please email us at We want top make sure your voices are heard as well.


  1. fred.. you made me laugh and cry all at once! i love this first installment and look forward to reading the rest!

  2. Wonderful story! His warmth, sharp wit, and quick laugh are what I remember most about him as well. He worked with my husband at Fitzpatrick Chevrolet and just about everyone there was like family. I haven't seen Don Lee since we moved to Texas a few years ago, but he's a larger than life presence and not someone easily forgotten. I am praying so hard that he and the others are found soon.

  3. You can tell from his smile. I see Mandi's smile in there too.

  4. Thanks for letting us meet him, Fred! I'm looking forward to more.